Scripture Reference:
If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing. 1 Corinthians 13:2-3
Relationship Skill to practice for September 2012:
"Reading aloud is a good relationship tool"
Explanation of this skill:
At a faculty meeting of the Family Practice Department at the VCU Medical College of Virginia, the Department Chairman read a story that mesmerized the faculty for thirty minutes. Why did this activity bring such stillness among the group? When traveling, why has listening to books on tape become so popular? Why would a group of inmates in jail sit together and listen to a book on tape?
Reading aloud activates the auditory imagination. To a young child, this will give birth to a love for reading; to older folks it is a delightful experience.
Reading aloud is not only an enjoyable moment; it is an excellent relationship tool between adults as well as children. Reading aloud is like taking a trip together. You experience similar emotions, identify with the characters and live out the suspense of the moment. Part of the relationship connection must also be the time involved in bringing people together. Reading aloud is a consistent vehicle that brings parent-child or a family or adults together.
Reading aloud creates a much stronger relationship connection than television. Even though entertainment can be relaxing, why does it not build relationship? The consistent time together and the auditory imagination must be the difference between reading aloud and television. We experience the difference between the auditory and visual imagination when we read a book and then watch a movie of the same book. The movie is almost invariably a letdown compared to the book.
At a faculty meeting of the Family Practice Department at the VCU Medical College of Virginia, the Department Chairman read a story that mesmerized the faculty for thirty minutes. Why did this activity bring such stillness among the group? When traveling, why has listening to books on tape become so popular? Why would a group of inmates in jail sit together and listen to a book on tape?
Many people have fond memories of their schoolteachers reading stories aloud on a regular basis. What is the basis of these memories? There is much more going on than just the content of the story.
Why is there direct correlation between reading aloud and academic success? This is because the relationship time and the experience of the auditory imagination activate or enhance a love for reading. As a child reads, vocabulary increases and concepts are understood. Vocabulary and concepts are the basis of all academic success.
Another benefit of reading aloud is character development. We will all identify with the heroes in a story and learn about character traits through their example. This example and identification is a much stronger teaching tool as compared to just defining particular character traits. The benefits of reading aloud are numerous and do not stop when the child learns how to read. Look at it this way; by reading aloud, you are investing a book into your child’s memory for the rest of his or her life.
Another benefit of reading aloud is character development. We will all identify with the heroes in a story and learn about character traits through their example. This example and identification is a much stronger teaching tool as compared to just defining particular character traits. The benefits of reading aloud are numerous and do not stop when the child learns how to read. Look at it this way; by reading aloud, you are investing a book into your child’s memory for the rest of his or her life.
Practical expressions of this skill:
Parents can get age appropriate classics, novels, books and read to their children throughout their time in the home. Even though older children get busier, reading aloud after dinner or after homework, as a family activity or one-on-one, is enjoyable.
A spouse can read to the other spouse while one is washing dishes, prior to falling asleep or just when desiring to relax together. A good novel or book draws people together.
As older adults desire to develop relationship with kids considered high-risk, reading aloud is a tool that builds relationship as well as having significant implications for the children that are being read too.
Example:
In 2009, I was talking to a young soldier about his children and listening to his stories. He was concerned about the amount of time they were watching television. I begin to share with him about reading aloud. I was also with a 60-year-old physician from the mid-west who was listening intently. After listening for a few minutes, he began to share in detail the memories he had when he was 6 years old when his mother read Jungle Book to him. The glow in his eyes, the fondness in voice, and the details of the story were all very crystal to him, now 54 years later. His mother’s presence, the story’s characters, the joy of the moment --each had left a clear imprint on his heart for fifty-four years.
For many stories how a read aloud program has affected whole schools and school districts, go to www.readtothem.org. The stories are thrilling.